Living abroad will bring you many challenging situations you will need to face. How do you want to manage those?
In this article, you can learn the difference between pessimists and optimists when dealing with uncomfortable situations.
Pessimists are reacters
When faced with a problem, pessimists immediately throw up their hands and yell, “That’s it; it’s all over. I can’t handle this anymore.” Or they will distance themself from the problem, pretending it doesn’t matter, entering a denial face.
Denial never works.
An indication that you are dealing with a pessimist is in a simple phrase they will use in stressful situations – “I can’t”. Pessimists are helpless, powerless and it shows in their response.
Optimists are doers
On the other hand, optimists respond with – “I won’t”. Optimists are making a conscious choice, not just reacting. An optimist prefers to think more positively. They focus on what they really want, not what might happen to them.
Most importantly, optimist people tend to find the upside to the situation and start figuring out ways to solve it or turn it around.
Are we optimistic or pessimistic?
According to Dr Martin Seligman, one of the world’s foremost experts on optimism, everyone is born optimistic. Yet 95% of grownups are pessimists, not optimists.
When you think about it, most people tend to be an optimist sometimes and pessimist other times.
Ironically, events turn out according to how we feel about the situation.
If a person feels something will go well and feels optimistic about it, it usually seems to go well.
Similarly happens on reverse. When someone feels like something will go badly, it tends to do just that.
Who do you choose to be living abroad?
If you are not naturally optimistic and positive, don’t worry. You can learn how to use your thoughts to change your attitude and emotions even living abroad.
Improving your optimism rates is one of the most crucial actions to enhance your life abroad.
Practise Optimism living abroad
Remember that Optimists :
- achieve their goals because they never give up
- attract Success naturally
- are happier, healthier and more energetic than pessimists
- are easier to be around, inspiring people around them to be positive
- live longer and suffer from fewer and less severe diseases
- Besides the above, optimists lead a higher quality of life.
Take deliberate, conscious awareness of your thoughts and feelings. Act every day to be positive and optimistic.
Each time you think of a negative thought, stop right there and turn it around to find the positive aspect of the situation. Do this each time and build on it. It will become a habit to be positive and upbeat about your life.
You can be as optimistic as you want, and you will attract wealth for that new online project or new charity you set up.
So I would say to you: Be Optimistic!
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Expect the best out of life! Only Think and Act Optimistically.
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